Love today

As James Ingram would ask, how do you keep the music playing? Being in a relationship is quite challenging, especially in terms of keeping it in trying, complicated and modern lives that we live in. The way our modern tradition revolutionized a mean or two affecting our personal lives, our relationships to be precise, now are entirely different.

Love becomes secondary. It just sprouts out after our need for money, power and other reassuring things. I’m just being true here that those relationships today are built and made just for the sake of an agenda. Labelling?

A relationship based on complete trust and pure love, sad to say, is rare nowadays. That is why love quotes, relationship quotes and such the like clog social media sites nowadays. It tells us that having a relationship isn’t about money or other modernized means alone. It’s about the giving of pure and unblemished affection to the one needing it.

conflicting LABELS

Honestly speaking, this is not meant shed light on a resoled matter but to explore ‘’labels’’ in the possibility of being under a friction or under pressure. A pressure that amounts in really going deeper into the present status of a relationship.

We can’t deny our own wants and needs. It is sometimes through them that conflicts arise. Whether labelled or not, taking the initiative to understand yourself and the other opens up a wider chance of knowing each other.

Labels would just limit both of you. It limits the response, the reaction and respect when jailed to its culturally-pressurizing call.

What’s wrong is it disables your heat to give what is necessary. To love and accept wharever it is that comes your way. Remember that the rain will soon stop.

   

Labels - Part 7

Inasmuch as I wanted to transcend or avoid details in describing life as it happens, lessons learned keeps me grounded dealing with the thing left to argue about, reality.

It’s what our hearts and minds submit to every single day. What makes or breaks us is highly related in its existence. It further tells us to change or enhance the way we live, for ourselves and especially for others.

In a relationship, reality makes us do great things – joy, nirvana, love, sacrifice, share, give and other excellent and worthy deeds. On one hand, it lets us experience lessons such as hurt, resentment, remorse, neglecting, and to some, death. A lesser truth than the latter is a broken heart.

Where is my thought and inspiration?

And where are all the good intentions?

I can’t express myself no longer

Strangled by lies and disbelief

But I need time to see more clearly

To recognize the things gone missing

In times like these I have no answer

Nothing to say at all

-          Fra Lippo Lippi

Reality and relationship should and must complement each other. Having a healthy one is accepting and understanding whatever reality presents us.

I again, was reminded of my friend who, because of unavoidable circumstances, explored reality and its labels. But the nature of her heart and the grounding that brought her back.

Among others - a Labels' side tone

I would have really wanted to soak my battered body against the sudden flow of the raging rain but the mask of stroke clinched tight around my body. Agog to go out helplessly, I just decided to stare outside at the endless water falling down from the sky. I was suddenly reminded of many things.  Among them is equality.

Your name, age, status in life and label doesn’t mean a thing. These are just mere products of our rich culture that identifies, groups, classifies us according to size, shape, type and various unreformed details. And its inability and lapses causes confusion to people.

Equality spectacularly wards all these off as it chooses no one. It drains us like rain without boundaries or limits. Enough reason for it to be squared with our respective relationships. Again, as long as the relationship is fair, giving, forgiving and loving, equality runs through its veins.

What happens when there’s an involved issue? Approaching the same with deeper understanding from both ends and proper solution to address the impeding matter will surely iron things out. Being just also coincides with being equal. Acceptance is also a relative and there’s this single recipe that binds it all – Love.

Labels - the return

I admit, that in as much as I wanted to arose from the depths of ‘’being unto being’’, I am actioned and called back by my peer’s frame of thoughts to delve again and subjectify things that heed alteration or otherwise.

The question on the amount of love given and its intensity is impeccable. But the fear of losing and being afraid to let your deeds fly out is nothing but a nightmare. Indeed you may find somebody worthy for you but the hands of time goes rapidly. There might be overwhelming moments but the mind is so attached that even gravity pushes it back where you belong.

Options are not for asking. ‘Labels’ is not an issue. True love is. The choice is yours and no amount of pressure can penetrate it. The facets of love given and shared alone are strong principles for consideration. Sad, but it’s true. But it’s that feeling that we experience. We’re alive after all.

Labels- the conclusion

Getting up very in order to amend and probably bemoan my momentary loss of ideas worried me. There’s this twitch in me to deal more on a friend’s remarkable bubble of existence together with someone. I’m making it less right now. I would try to give a little twist to this labelling chant just like any movie brain would. Forrest Gump once said that life is a box of chock’laits, you’ll never know what you’ll get, so it’s a complete pile of stinking shit this time.

What if you suddenly wake up one morning feeling nothing? It’s impossible, but this cheap reason sometimes does happen. The presence of a third party, whether willed or not, is also a possibility. Social, filial and such other equally important factors must also be considered. Or is this under the clock?

In the end, all your efforts, sacrifices and heartfelt prayers in keeping your relationship standing mightily over those sprains will survive.

I envy those who are determined and eager enough to showcase their undying and dedicated affection to their beloved. Love truly needs no amount of label. It just classifies the doze of love and further restricts the parties involved. Labels are only most effective in drugs or medicines. Love doesn’t need drugs or medicines. A dedicated and devoted sharing of one’s self without any conditions is more than enough to cater to what our heart truly needs, love that is.

Leybel- Ika-apat na bahagi

Ipagpaumanhin ninyo ang aking panandaliang pagyakap at pag-gamit sa aking sariling wika. Ito’y marahil sa aking kawalan ng mga angkop na termino, nararapat at kaukulang mga salita na syang nagiging hadlang sa aking masalimuot na paghimay at pagsusuri ng paksa sa aking harapan. Muli, humihingi ako ng inyong pang-unawa.

Pagmamahal. Isang kataga na marahil ay hindi hinihingi ngunit naibibigay ng kahit nang sinong nilalang. Ang malayang pagbabahagi nito na may ka-angkop na sakripisyo ay higit na hinahangaan. Ang tunay at wagas na uri ng pagmamahal ay hindi kaylaman makikita, mababanaag o maisasalansan ayon sa uri, bagkus ito ay tangi lang mararamdaman. Ito ay sadyang kapos kung kulang sa naaayong tugon. Makapagbibigay lamang ito ng naka-ambang dusa kung ang pagmamahal ay hindi buo at ganap sa nais nitong ipahiwatig. Kaylan lamang ay nakahagip ako ng isang nagmamahalang nilalang. Masasabi ko mula sa isa sa kanilang tagapagsalita na ito’y natural, puro at sadyang dalisay na maging mga tula at awit ay ‘di pupuno sa taglay nitong kaayusan. Hindi marahil sapat ang maiksi ko’ng pagpalaot sa mundo ng pagmanahal, ngunit ang lakbay ko’y hindi pa tapos...

Ako ma’y mahibang, mawalan ng ulirat,

Sa puso ko’y tanging ikaw ang siyang saad

Kamatayan man, saki’y tumambad,

Diwa mo naman nakaukit sa ‘king palad

Basta’t tayong dal’wa,

Puso’t layunin iisa

‘di alintana sabi ng iba

Ano? Anong label, label pa?

Ang higit na mahalaga

Mahal mo ‘ko, mahal kita!

Label-Part III

For My Archangel....

Everything came so easy.
You're keeping me warm
Crashing down in,
You're making me smile.
I never felt so wanted,
You're taking me home.

Don't give back,
I miss you, I kiss you,
But nobody knows.

Too much to ask
Something between us
Sweet beginnings, sweet endings.
I'm your side
But I can't spell it out
Meet me halfway, I could be the same for you

-T3

It is quite simple though challenging, to keep an unlabelled love relationship going. The amount of selfless sacrifice counting to doing every possible thing just to make the idea of labelling drift among the fads of culture is immeasurable. The imaginary line that labels every love relationship vanishes with much affection and intimacy shown. Two souls liking each one’s company is enough reason to manifest pure and unblemished love. It exemplifies simplicity but the deepness of one’s affection still shouts. Existentially logical for everything exists in mind. The simple poem above tells how time and circumstances modifies a single life. Being in an unlabelled relationship and of course, being in love. 

Label-Part II

I feel that this is inevitable. Life would be all bland for one not to undergo this. You would die meaningless and of self-centeredness missing the peace and joy it brings. It is how I initially define relationships. For me, it is a transcendental vision of what we are. It is an extension of who and what we want to be. Piles of books have been presented; relationship tips, relationship know-how, building relationships, love and relationships, etc. But if we look closely, it all sums up in knowing yourself first. Benefitting from that intense relationship with yourself is absolutely the one most worthy of that love. Label that love relationship between you and yours alone. There is so much affection and understanding needed than emphasizing on society’s ‘label’ pressure. To love wholeheartedly in a relationship definitely needs no label. As my friend would put it, ‘’GOW’’. 

Label?

As I was about to take my medicines, I suddenly noticed its label. Those labels speak of what they are or what they stress of. My consciousness brought me to an endeared friend of mine whose belief in labelling one’s relationship is just a product of a modern inquisitive assuring society. Her acts and his, stands alone as labels. Labels that is more to than friendship, exceeds the effort of caring and dismantles the rules of affection. The act of giving yourself so that the other feels it and vice versa is a label in cloak. It maybe sillier to think but that’s how love affects our own unique lives. True love doesn’t need distinction or labels. Just what Christ taught us: love unconditionally. To end, I would like to share my friend’s endearing tagalong poem which demonstrates her unlabelled but heartfelt emotions for her man.

''laging nagkakaintindihan

laging nagkakaunawaan

laging masaya

basta't magkasama

ngit, halakhak, at tawa

kadalasan sa tuwina

hindi nagpapabaya

magkatuwang sa lahat ng problema

magkaibigan nga ba

o sadyang pinipigilan

ang damdaminng tunay

na dapat sa isat-isa ay ialay?

bow...’’

Label? Anyone?